Sometimes as a mum, a wife, a woman, a working person, trying to balance it all out, I feel the need to feel "normal" . . . that I am not the only one who doesn't have all the answers, not the only one who feels like I am failing on almost all fronts of my life. Don't get me wrong, 99.9% of the time I thrive on being busy and good-stress, and I love all aspects of my life but there are just sometimes that it all becomes overwhelming and when children are added into that equation the guilt can seem insurmountable at times. So the other night I was just feeling really low and I posted on my FB page (which is just to my closest fiends and family) this comment . . .
"Sometimes I suck as a mum."
And I am not writing this post as a "woe is me," I decided to write this to share the wonderful comments my friends left for me. It reinforced my belief that we need to love and support and nurture each other. That we are all in the same race, all up against, maybe not the same challenges, but challenges none the less. We need to build each other up, not tear each other down. It takes a village . . . and these peeps are my village . . . THANK YOU
"No no. Don't think that. Being a mum is hard sweetie. Don't ever doubt yourself. Children do not come with instructions. We learn as we go"
"I getchya. Feel it daily..."
"I had one of those days too today. Hang in there. Just finished a glass of "mommy juice" to ease the pain."
"We all sometimes suck as moms. This sh*t is hard! You're amazing and your girls will remember nothing but that amazing-ness."
'You are a wonderful mother! I think every parent who is honest has felt the same at times. Life can be messy and difficult but you are doing a great job! Don't beat yourself up!"
"Don't worry, we all have moments like that but in the grand scheme of things we do alright and the kids survive"
"I can't say that I know anything about your parenting skills other than what you post on FB ... that being said, the fact that you LOVE your family so much speaks volumes. Being a mom is tough but I'm sure you're doing a fantastic job (bc you're a fantastic person)"
"I suck as a Mum, and as a Dad!"
"I don't think so!!!! You are super mom in my eyes : )"
"You have too much patience with the girls. You are doing an amazing job. Not many Mums and Dads leave for work as early as you both do"
And if you haven't already, or even if you have, watch this . . . again and again and again.